Social and Counseling Day at St Pauls Highfields
Today I was invited as a guest speaker at the Social and Counseling day, St Pauls Highfields Harare under the theme:
“Make a Choice, Get up and Go…” Joshua 24:15, Micah 2:10 & Deut 1:6-8”
The event was being organized by the Anglican Youth Association of Harare. Some of the guests included Mrs Avril Dhlamini, Rev Fr B.C Gwashero and Pastor Rupere. When I got a phone call from Mrs Dhlamini requesting me to go I was a bit hesitant. Coming from a very long and hectic working week, I was planning to dodge the invitation so that I will allow myself to sleep in and take some much needed rest. But when I woke up this morning, I told myself that I must go regardless how tired I was & indeed, I don’t regret the decision; If there is one person who benefited the most from this event, it was me.
I had an opportunity to interact with the youths and get to know them and did a bit of mentorship and motivational speaking. Fr Gwashero had the following words to share with the youths:
Fr Gwashero –Choosing a lifetime partner
In whatever we do, it is important to know what we stand for and be clear with what we want out of your lives. It is important to acquire wisdom from God and make it our daily bread. Principles of choosing a life partner are crucial and they have a huge effect in determining our future. As we move from the primary stage to secondary stage in life, we need to understand the responsibilities that come with adulthood. As a Christian it’s crucial to try living a mistake free life by all means. When it comes to marriage, note that marriage is a sacrament and it is a covenant that should never be broken. Once you decide to marry someone, make sure it goes according to God’s will and that you don’t regret the decision. Once you say I do on your wedding day, know it’s a sacrament that gets to be sealed in Heaven and should not be broken. It is not a heat and run situation like in a game of cricket.
Here are the seven principles that should guide us in the process of choosing a life partner
1.Do not marry a non believer who will compromise your faith.2 Corinthians6 vs 16-18. Light and darkness should never mix. Ask yourself is the person you call your girlfriend or boyfriend challenges your faith to keep growing? Does he/she inspire you to be a better person and make you keep growing in Christ? Does she stand in the values of God? If not, you may have to reconsider. If you meet a non believer, no matter how handsome or pretty or attractive they maybe, if they refuse to go in the line of God ask them why they don’t like God. If you can’t change them, then its best you change your route and leave them alone but keep on praying for them that maybe one day they will see the light. Don’t ever ignore the important fundamentals and the red flags. Don’t be deceived by the looks alone or physical aspects. Know that courtship and dating is like examination time, don’t ignore the fundamentals!
2.Do not get married when you are too young. Marriage is for adults, who can make deep-seated decisions. Getting married and starting a family comes with a lot of responsibilities that require a lot of dedication and commitment. Getting married while in your teens is highly discouraged. If you marry while too young, chances of getting divorce are high as well.
3.Do not marry based instant feelings of lust. Marriage is more that the physical appearance of someone and satisfying immediate feelings. There should be more substance, something that will still hold you together even when all the good looks are gone.
4.Sexual intercourse is designed for those who are married. There should be clear understanding that marriage is a fusion of cultural, mental, physical, intellectual, social and sexual connection between a couple. You should be able to relate with your partner in all aspects of the fore mentioned. You should be able to bond with whoever you wish to marry. If you start occupying your mind with sexual desires while still dating, it corrupts your mind and will lead you into temptation and the urge to indulge in sex with your partner. And this is not favorable in the eyes of God.
5.Do not get married under pressure. Internal and external pressures are both included here. Never get married from self induced thoughts like “I am ugly, I may never find anyone else who will love me as much, or I am too old now, if I wait any longer no one is going to marry me”. Never allow yourself to succumb to pressure, wait on God’s time; it is the best. Do not marry because your family is putting you under pressure and all your friends have families. If you are not ready and if God is telling you otherwise, be patient and listen to His voice.
6.Do not get married as a status symbol because it is like building a castle on sand, the foundation is not strong and is bound to crumple. Everyone was created different by God and have a different calling, so if everyone around you is married and has a family; stand strong in your faith knowing that at the right time, God makes everything work for the good!
7.You should marry someone you have thoroughly taken time to know and understand. Don’t be blinded by love at first sight. Take time to know your potential partner, what they like and what they don’t like. Always be assertive and know what you want, know yourself and what you stand for. Ask yourself what you want out of your relationship and make sure you don’t compromise. You may never fully understand a person but do get to know the fundamentals & see if you can tolerate them or not before you say yes to marriage. Do not marry someone you have known for less than a year, spend time together and get to know each other. Above all be responsible and take care of yourself.
Saturday, May 19, 2012
Monday, May 14, 2012
Re-Invent Yourself
Don’t wait too long to take action, it’s your life and you live it once so you better make it count. Remember there is more to life than being stuck in a pathetically abusive relationship. And by abusive it’s not only corporal abuse um talking about; poignant abuse does count as well. Don’t be stuck or caught “having forty winks”; love yourself enough to walk out and move on with your life. All human beings do grow and when we have outgrown our present circumstances, it could be time to move on or better still it could be time for reinvention.
Personally, I have taken some re-invention journeys in my life from career changes, to relocation to self-employment to ending toxic relationships. As long as your re-invention is a blessing to yourself and those around you, I say GO FOR IT. If the rhythm of life changes beat, it could be the perfect time to seek some re-inventions. Don’t be stuck in abusive relationships, there is more to life than someone foot stomping you. Keep your head up and move on. You deserve the best out of your life so perhaps it’s time to do something about it, Some Re-Invention On The Move!
You are Beautiful; God created you in His Image so love yourself and take care of yourself. Even when you feel hopeless in your situation, remember God cares, His grace is sufficient enough to see you through any obstacle.
Philippians 4:13
“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me, I have the power to face all conditions through the power Christ gives me”
Thursday, May 3, 2012
Miss Zimbabwe 2012 Finale
...and the winner is 'Drum Roll...'
Friday 27 April 2012.
It was a hive of activity at the HICC as people from all walks of life converged at Harare International Conference Center for the historic crowning of Miss Zimbabwe 2012. Artists to grace the event included the likes of Cindy Munyavi, Pauline Gundidza, Rocqui, Dereck Mpofu, Adiona, Willis Wataffi Afrika and the legend himself Mr Oliver Mtukudzi.
There were a total of 29 girls running for the Miss Zimbabwe crown. The theme for the 2012 Miss Zimbabwe pageant was “I am Zimbabwean" showing the nation of Zimbabwean and the world beyond how we are proud of our how heritage. As the nation of Zimbabwe celebrated its 32nd Independence, under the theme "Social and Economic Development through Youth Empowerment and Indegenization", the “I am Zimbabwean” was very befitting for the 2012 pageant.
By the end of the night, we saw,myself Ruvimbo Katiyo a delegate from Miss Zimbabwe-USA being crowned 2nd Princess while Petinah Nhamburo,1st princess Miss Mashonaland West 2011 was crowned 1st Princess. Bongani Dlakama Miss Bulawayo 2011 walked away with the much coveted crown of Miss Zimbabwe 2012. The Miss Zimbabwe 2012 pageant proceeded well against all odds and amidst all the challenges that the Miss Zimbabwe Trust faced along the journey. With that said, I would like to thank the Miss Zimbabwe trust for their dedication and tireless effort they put to make the pageant a success. As one of the rightfully chosen ambassadress of Miss Zimbabwe Trust for the coming year, I promise to do my best during my reign in-order to raise the banner higher for Miss Zimbabwe Trust within and beyond the borders of Zimbabwe. And I pledge to stay true to my roots,to raise Zimbabwe's flag higher on the International scene and carry my title with pride, honor and dignity.
I am Zimbabwean, Proud & Loud; Red,Green,Yellow,Black & White the colors of my flag,embroiled in my heart so that they Wont fade. Even beyond the borders of Zimbabwe,I stand tall & remain Proudly Zimbabwean!
I love my country #Proudly-Zimbabwean!
Thursday, April 5, 2012
Breaking the Silence about Miss Zimbabwe 2012 search
Regai kungo shora,there are two sides to every coin...
Ever since the Miss Zimbabwe 2012 search began, I have been reading a lot of negative comments and sometimes harsh remarks being passed on about the selection of the 2012 Miss Zimbabwe Finalists. Being one of the finalists, I am a bit insipid but not marred by some of the remarks being passed by my fellow countrymen. On various media platforms, the 2012 finalists are being ripped apart and butchered from left to right, and being regarded as ‘sad stories’ to ever happen in the Zimbabwe beauty pageant history. With the finals slowly approaching on the 27th of April we have successfully manage to remain tight-lipped and stay put. None of us has really broken the silence to retaliate but it doesn't mean that we are neither blind nor totally immune to the harsh words our fellow countrymen are passing towards us.
Surprisingly, most of the people who are passing on such a negative vibe are people who barely know the finalists in profundity and they have never met them in person. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, including myself but I believe if you all, my fellow Zimbos; would get a chance to meet some of the 2012 finalists in person you will get to appreciate their high level of competency and appreciate their worth as fellow Zimbabweans who are proud of their heritage and are working hard to represent the nation to the best of their abilities. I challenge you my fellow countrymen to stop looking at Miss Zimbabwe 2012 contestants from the top of the bottle but try to get to know us better and what we stand for. Some of the finalists are not only beautiful, but are very intellectually strong and accomplished members of our society.
I get moved when I get generalized and pre-judged before anyone takes a look at what I bring on the table. Dwelling on some of the comments passed , labeling the finalists 'as creatures from the bush that are incompetent to stand on the Miss World stage,' it just sounds so blunt & exhibits a certain level of ignorance to me. Speaking for myself here, I would like to complacently highlight that UM BEAUTIFULLY, FEARFULLY & WONDERFULLY MADE and um not a creature from the bush! I consider myself competent enough to meet the international standard in all aspects. For anyone who doubts my competence as an individual or that of any other Miss Zimbabwe 2012 finalist I would like to highlight that some of us have participated in international pageants before & fared really well, not to mention participating in some highly regarded fashion shows in New York, Texas, Washington DC to mention just a few. So if you doubt our capabilities to represent Zimbabwe on the international scene then you may need to think twice or at least give me proof of validity for your assessment of my incapability to be considered as Miss Zimbabwe Finalist 2012.
Like I said before, everyone is entitled to their own opinions, but brace yourselves up Zimbos, you may be shocked of how magnificently bright Miss Zimbabwe 2012 will shine on the Miss World platform by bringing the Miss World crown to Zimbabwe! Regai kungo shora-shora pese pese. Mucha shora mbodza neino zvimbira!
When all is said and done, people of benevolence and good faith; let’s try to achieve a common ground here and support our Miss Zimbabwe 2012 finalists on this journey of searching for a delegate that will represent Zimbabwe at Miss World 2012. Vaguely passing on none stop disparagement towards the finalists without giving sound advice yields no progress; & we will be all doomed to fail. By the end of the day, we all want to come up with the rightful delegate befitting to proudly represent Zimbabwe on the international scene, so let’s work together as a nation to bring the best out of the finalists without bringing them down and destroying their confidence. Bear in mind that a title like Miss Zimbabwe comes along with national duties, so let’s work together as a nation to make sure that our rightfully chosen candidate fares really well during her reign. Instead of dwelling on the bad and negativity in each other, let’s focus our energy on the positive in each other. Together, we can produce an antique that will prove to be rare and valuable within and beyond the borders of Zimbabwe!
Be Blessed and don’t forget to be a Blessing to others!
Ever since the Miss Zimbabwe 2012 search began, I have been reading a lot of negative comments and sometimes harsh remarks being passed on about the selection of the 2012 Miss Zimbabwe Finalists. Being one of the finalists, I am a bit insipid but not marred by some of the remarks being passed by my fellow countrymen. On various media platforms, the 2012 finalists are being ripped apart and butchered from left to right, and being regarded as ‘sad stories’ to ever happen in the Zimbabwe beauty pageant history. With the finals slowly approaching on the 27th of April we have successfully manage to remain tight-lipped and stay put. None of us has really broken the silence to retaliate but it doesn't mean that we are neither blind nor totally immune to the harsh words our fellow countrymen are passing towards us.
Surprisingly, most of the people who are passing on such a negative vibe are people who barely know the finalists in profundity and they have never met them in person. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, including myself but I believe if you all, my fellow Zimbos; would get a chance to meet some of the 2012 finalists in person you will get to appreciate their high level of competency and appreciate their worth as fellow Zimbabweans who are proud of their heritage and are working hard to represent the nation to the best of their abilities. I challenge you my fellow countrymen to stop looking at Miss Zimbabwe 2012 contestants from the top of the bottle but try to get to know us better and what we stand for. Some of the finalists are not only beautiful, but are very intellectually strong and accomplished members of our society.
I get moved when I get generalized and pre-judged before anyone takes a look at what I bring on the table. Dwelling on some of the comments passed , labeling the finalists 'as creatures from the bush that are incompetent to stand on the Miss World stage,' it just sounds so blunt & exhibits a certain level of ignorance to me. Speaking for myself here, I would like to complacently highlight that UM BEAUTIFULLY, FEARFULLY & WONDERFULLY MADE and um not a creature from the bush! I consider myself competent enough to meet the international standard in all aspects. For anyone who doubts my competence as an individual or that of any other Miss Zimbabwe 2012 finalist I would like to highlight that some of us have participated in international pageants before & fared really well, not to mention participating in some highly regarded fashion shows in New York, Texas, Washington DC to mention just a few. So if you doubt our capabilities to represent Zimbabwe on the international scene then you may need to think twice or at least give me proof of validity for your assessment of my incapability to be considered as Miss Zimbabwe Finalist 2012.
Like I said before, everyone is entitled to their own opinions, but brace yourselves up Zimbos, you may be shocked of how magnificently bright Miss Zimbabwe 2012 will shine on the Miss World platform by bringing the Miss World crown to Zimbabwe! Regai kungo shora-shora pese pese. Mucha shora mbodza neino zvimbira!
When all is said and done, people of benevolence and good faith; let’s try to achieve a common ground here and support our Miss Zimbabwe 2012 finalists on this journey of searching for a delegate that will represent Zimbabwe at Miss World 2012. Vaguely passing on none stop disparagement towards the finalists without giving sound advice yields no progress; & we will be all doomed to fail. By the end of the day, we all want to come up with the rightful delegate befitting to proudly represent Zimbabwe on the international scene, so let’s work together as a nation to bring the best out of the finalists without bringing them down and destroying their confidence. Bear in mind that a title like Miss Zimbabwe comes along with national duties, so let’s work together as a nation to make sure that our rightfully chosen candidate fares really well during her reign. Instead of dwelling on the bad and negativity in each other, let’s focus our energy on the positive in each other. Together, we can produce an antique that will prove to be rare and valuable within and beyond the borders of Zimbabwe!
Be Blessed and don’t forget to be a Blessing to others!
Sunday Mail Front Cover
Front Cover...
In September 2011, I attended Miss Zimbabwe 2011 Malaika Mushandu's fundraising dinner in New Lands. The dinner gave me an opportunity to socialize with a lot of people in Zimbabwe's Fashion circles. It was during the event that Sunday Mail approached me and brought to my attention that they wanted me to grace the cover of the upcoming Sunday Mail together with Malaika Mushandu (Miss Zimbabwe 2011 title holder) and Bisma Ahmed, fashion designer at B'zma Fashion Wear!
In September 2011, I attended Miss Zimbabwe 2011 Malaika Mushandu's fundraising dinner in New Lands. The dinner gave me an opportunity to socialize with a lot of people in Zimbabwe's Fashion circles. It was during the event that Sunday Mail approached me and brought to my attention that they wanted me to grace the cover of the upcoming Sunday Mail together with Malaika Mushandu (Miss Zimbabwe 2011 title holder) and Bisma Ahmed, fashion designer at B'zma Fashion Wear!
Wednesday, April 4, 2012
Zimbabwe
Zimbabwe Fashion Week
My first big event in Zimbabwe upon my arrival from USA was Zimbabwe Fashion Week. I was invited for all the events that were scheduled for the fashion week and I truly had a very insightful experience while I was at it. However, I enjoyed most the last day of the fashion week which was Saturday, the FINALE. Vimbai Mutinhiri (Big Brother Africa finalist) and myself were invited to grace the finale show as show stopper and show opener respectively. My good friend Bisma Ahmed of B'zma fashion wear's collection closed the Zimbabwe Fashion Week curtains. Below are photos from ZFW!
My first big event in Zimbabwe upon my arrival from USA was Zimbabwe Fashion Week. I was invited for all the events that were scheduled for the fashion week and I truly had a very insightful experience while I was at it. However, I enjoyed most the last day of the fashion week which was Saturday, the FINALE. Vimbai Mutinhiri (Big Brother Africa finalist) and myself were invited to grace the finale show as show stopper and show opener respectively. My good friend Bisma Ahmed of B'zma fashion wear's collection closed the Zimbabwe Fashion Week curtains. Below are photos from ZFW!
Breaking the Silence...
My Return!
So its been a while since I last posted something on my blog. Days have been hectic but I will share a detailed account of what I have been up to and my current projects. I hope this blog will be as insightful and informative as ever. Since I last blogged last year,2011 that is; I will try to post a detailed run down of what I have been up to till this date.
So enjoy....
So its been a while since I last posted something on my blog. Days have been hectic but I will share a detailed account of what I have been up to and my current projects. I hope this blog will be as insightful and informative as ever. Since I last blogged last year,2011 that is; I will try to post a detailed run down of what I have been up to till this date.
So enjoy....
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